Wednesday, February 13, 2008

Flip Side of Every Coin

I've been thinking a lot lately of our situation and the situations that everyone comes across in their lives, and why some people choose to say 'its so hard' and 'poor me' and why some people can be happy no matter what. Whats the difference between the two? And how do we get to the point where we're happy with what we have and with ourselves no matter what? I've come up with one idea, I really think is a big part of it. Besides living the way we should, doing all the things we're supposed to, I think a big part of being happy is just in our thinking. I'm sure everyone's thinking--DUH! But really, I think it all comes down to choosing if we're going to be happy or not. I knew a lady who would come to work and say "I can't be happy, my daughter's doing this and I'm having problems with my house and this and that....so don't bother me today, I'm not in a good mood and I can act however I want." And just about every day she would come in and say how hard her life was and she couldn't be happy. This was a great example to me that we should focus on the good things in life and not all the bad things. Really, I could say 'I work at a daycare picking up seven babies all the time, changing stinky diapers, while I'm pregnant and the Young Women's president which takes a ton of my time and energy, on top of living in an old run down house that needs tons of work, my husband's been in school for as long as we've been married and there's no end in sight (atleast not close) and I don't have any money because my husband doesn't work so I can't do all the things I would like to do......' I could go on, but I'm sure you get the point! But I really don't want anyone to think thats how I feel (although there are days....) How I really feel is: I am so BLESSED! I have a wonderful family who I love and we have so much fun together, even if we're not out spending money on stuff! And even though I'd rather be a stay at home mom, the job I do have allows me to bring my kids and Bethany goes to preschool and has learned so much and loves it! And Young Women's does take a lot of time, but is so rewarding! I get to have fun with a lot of great women and girls and we get to learn about spiritual things that mean so much more when you're telling them to a teenager! And my husband works really hard at home and at school, he never complains about doing laundry or the dishes! He would do whatever it took to make his family happy! So anyway, I hope this doesn't sound weird or cheesy, just something I felt I needed to get out! I really do feel lucky, even though I do complain; more than not, I really do get it!

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Keith and Kerrilyn's Family of 4 said...

Well said Melinda. I agree, I think our happiness is most definitely a choice. We can choose to be happy or we can choose to be unhappy. We all have problems, I guess like you said, it's what we make of our problems. I think it's funny, if we were asked to put our problems and trials in a bucket and pick out someone else's I have a feeling most of us would pick our own trials right back out of the bucket instead of taking someone elses. At least I would.
I agree, LIFE IS GOOD!!!!

Delee Cox said...

I loved this post! I definately agree, people who are unhappy with thier situations in life are usually unhappy with life even if the situation changes. I also think so many people (women especially) seem to think life should be easy. HA! Life is supposed to be a lot of work! But, there are so many great things about it, too. I try to focus on the positive, most of the time....